Sometimes I think communication between sweethearts is a lot like the Gary Larson cartoon where, in the first frame, the man is speaking to the dog in English. The caption reads, “What the man is saying.” In the next frame, the man is saying, “Blah, blah, blah,” and the caption reads, “What the dog is hearing.”
Back in our dating days, after hubby Dale had started staying nights at my house, I had given him the guest bath to use. One morning, as I was heading for my shower, he asked, “Can we shower at the same time?”
“Sure!” I responded enthusiastically and then quickly hopped into my shower and waited for him. Minutes later the water went ice cold and I learned just how effective “taking a cold shower” can be. So much for the morning shower sex I was expecting!
We had just had a blah-blah-blah moment. What I heard was, “Can we shower together?” What he asked was, “Can we run both showers at the same time?” Luckily, we were able to figure it all out and laugh about it. Too often, however, couples have a blah-blah-blah moment and they don’t realize it or, worse, it leads to a misunderstanding that results in resentment or a simmering grudge. When something your sweetheart says causes you any negative emotion whatsoever, asking yourself Question #3 of your Foreplay Back-Pocket Guide—How can I interpret my sweetheart’s behavior in a positive light so (s)he doesn’t lose Frequent Foreplay Miles?—can help you translate blah-blah-blah into English. Give it a try!