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December 31 Everyday Foreplay: A Good-Bye Kiss

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It’s time for New Year’s Resolutions. Never mind dieting. You know you’re not going to do it anyway. Instead, resolve to engage in everyday emotional foreplay and if you keep that resolution, I promise that you’re marriage will quickly become one that every one of your friends will envy. Continue reading

December 30 Everyday Foreplay: Love Freely

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I guess to some people marriage is restrictive, impinges on freedom, and is confining. I just don’t see it that way. There is nothing I want to do that I’m not free to do. It’s a matter of choice. I want to keep my marriage and to keep it happy. Therefore, I choose not to do the things that jeopardize that. Continue reading

December 29 Everyday Foreplay: Do it Without Regret

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I’m often asked the one piece of advice I would give all couples. I usually say: consider every moment one that either makes or breaks your relationship. To that, I would add this: consider every moment the last one you’ll ever have. Live it without regret. Continue reading

December 28 Everyday Foreplay: Renew Your Vows

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If your wedding was the last time you articulated the promises and pledges your make to your sweetheart, consider renewing them. Go to a quiet and beautiful place—preferably one that means something to you as a couple—just the two of you, and renew your vows as a reminder of what you promise to each other. Live every day in fulfillment of those promises. Continue reading

December 27 Everyday Foreplay: Get Nutty

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Couples that play together, stay together. Get nutty. Get Crazy. Get silly. Have fun together. Life is short and uncertain. Enjoy every minute. Continue reading

December 26 Everyday Foreplay: Say Thank You

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Our brains are hardwired to focus on the negative. That’s why it’s so important to consciously focus on the positive. You can do it. It simply takes retraining your brain. That’s not as hard to do as it may sound. Start by making your list of all that partner does and refer to every time you have a negative thought. Continue reading

December 25 Everyday Foreplay: Turn the Other Cheek

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People so often engage in righteous indignation as if they were perfect and never blew it. What nonsense. Give each other a break. Turn the other cheek. When you do, what’s you’re like to get is a kiss on that cheek. Continue reading

December 24 Everyday Foreplay: Love Your Kids

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Whether you have a child or not, envision the adult child you’d like to raise. Is she happy, well-balanced, successful (as she—not you—defines success), and living to her fullest potential? Children learn by example. Be your vision of the child you’d like to raise. Doing so will not only help you become a better parent, it will help you become the partner to your sweetheart that you want to be. Continue reading

December 23 Everyday Foreplay: Get the Spirit

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Sharing your beliefs, gaining an understanding of your partner’s approach to spirituality, can be an amazingly intimate experience. When you plumb the depths of your innermost being and share that with your partner, it is one of the most satisfying and rewarding experiences you can have as a couple. A spiritual understanding, a spiritual connection, bonds you in a way that nothing else can. Continue reading

December 22 Everyday Foreplay: Give a Gift

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When your sweetheart does something kind for you, re-gift that kindness right back. Remember, what goes around comes around tenfold. When you show your love by being respectful, kind, thoughtful, and generous, your sweetheart is inspired to do the same. It’s an uphill spiral that can only make your relationship better and better. Continue reading