To put (and keep) the spark into a boring or floundering marriage, you need to ReDate.

Author, speaker and relationship coach Shela Dean will show you how.

Here is just a taste of what you will learn:
  • How to recapture that over-the-top wonderful I am-so-in-love feeling that you thought was gone forever.
  • The exciting, sexy, romantic relationship you crave—even if you're ready to toss in the towel.
  • The joy, passion and fun that comes with bringing and keeping the best of dating into your marriage

FIRST COME DATING, THEN COMES MARRIAGE:

THEN COMES REALITY.

It’s inevitable. It’s the moment you realize the perfect 10 you thought you landed is really a flawed 6 or 7. No matter how hard you try, no matter how sincerely you promised each other that nothing would change,  it does. Why? Why can’t you sustain that giddy, can’t-get-enough-of-you, higher-than-a-kite feeling that led you to the altar? The answer may surprise you. You see, it really does have a lot to do with chemistry.

MOTHER NATURE’S DIRTY LITTLE TRICK.

Love, as it turns out, isn’t just made-for-each-other romance. Once that first spark flies, your brain goes into overdrive, secreting a hormone cocktail that make you so loopy with love you can’t see straight. Here’s the dirty little trick: the effect of those lovely falling-in-love hormones eventually wears off, leaving you squarely in the reality of everyday life.

IT’S MOTHER NATURE’S JOB TO GET YOU TOGETHER. IT’S YOUR JOB TO STAY TOGETHER.

You would think that since Mother Nature is so determined to get you together, you’d be hardwired with relationship survival skills. Sadly, that’s not the case. Those skills have to be learned—that’s not easy. That’s why most couples need help. And this, dear read, is where ReDate Your Mate® comes in.

Who hasn’t said, “If I only knew then what I know now, I’d do things differently.” Well, guess what? You may not be able to roll back the clock, but you can start anew armed with what you know now. That’s what ReDating is all about—transforming your marriage in four steps by doing it better and wiser this time around.

IN ReDATE YOUR MATE, 4 STEPS TO FALLING IN LOVE ALL OVER AGAIN, YOU’LL DISCOVER HOW TO:

Need more reasons to ReDate? Studies show that 66% of unhappily married adults who avoid divorce end up happily married (to their current partners) five year later. Only 20% of those who divorce will end up happily remarried. In other words, you have a better chance of ending up happily married to the spouse you have then if you divorce and remarry.

Isn’t it time for you to ReDate Your Mate?

"Shela's Frequent Foreplay Miles is a playful way of making sure your relationship is on the right runway. Whether flying solo or with a partner, let this book be your guide to a healthy relationship filled with satisfying intimacy and amazing emotional highs you'll be happy to brag about to your close friends."

— Larry James, Author of How to Really Love the One You're With

"I wanted to say thank you! You absolutely saved my marriage which, after 25 years, was on the brink of divorce. About 2 months after I read your book and followed your advice, my husband noticed the change in me. We were no longer fighting and I had stopped sniping at him. I shared your book with him. He read it in one sitting and couldn't put it down. That's when the real process of fixing our marriage began. We are talking more than we have in 10 years, are in love again, and the fireworks have been re-ignited! Thank you, Shela, for making the emotional love in our life stronger and for making the physical love happen again."

— Marla M.

Meet Shela

Shela Dean is a Relationship Happiness Coach and speaker. She has counseled more than 2,000 couples since 1983 and is the author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy! Shela began studying the dynamics of personal relationships during her two-decade career as an estate and family attorney before retiring from law to begin coaching in 2004.

I'm married to Dale who is hands down, the nicest guy on the planet. He's kind, generous, cute, a great cook, and funny. He's not, of course, perfect. For example, he's chronically late. In fact, that's why Frequent Foreplay Miles began. It was over morning coffee and cinnamon-toast when, 10 years ago, I explained to Dale the effect his being late had on me.