To beat the odds, you need to not repeat the same old mistakes

Author, speaker and relationship coach Shela Dean will show you how.

Here is just a taste of what you will learn:
  • Unpacking your "old baggage" together can lead to an unbreakable mind-heart-body bond that connects you no matter what.
  • Navigating the his-hers-and-ours world of blending families can be your life's most rewarding journey.
  • A level of intimacy you never imagined could exist.

FIRST COME DIVORCE, THEN COMES REMARRIAGE:

THE ODDS ARE NOT IN YOUR FAVOR.

Sorry. But it’s true. The odds of marriage ending in divorce increase with each remarriage. Why? Well, for one thing second marriages are just more complicated. There are often children and other relationships to blend, households to merge, busy lives to coordinate. Then, there’s all the baggage you brought with you—not just your truck full of stuff, but your emotional baggage. You got married the first time with the baggage you accumulated growing up. And, with each marriage, each failed relationship, you accumulated a whole lot more—false beliefs about what men and women are all about, scar tissue from the hurts and disappointments already suffered, and so much more.

TO BEAT THE ODDS, YOU NEED TO UNPACK ALL THAT BAGGAGE.

So, what does that mean? Years of therapy? No, who has time for that. Look, I’m not saying it’s easy but it is possible to do self-analysis IF you’re willing to be brutally honest with yourself and you have a little help. That’s where Frequent Foreplay Miles for the Remarried comes in. With the tools I give you, you’ll get a jump start on unpacking those bags. And . . .

YOU NEED TO BE REALISTIC.

You go a long way towards beating the odds if you’re realistic and practical about such things as premarital agreements to deal with all sorts of issues, such as:

You do yourselves a huge favor by being upfront about these issues (and so many more). Frequent Foreplay Miles for the Remarried helps you do just that.

YOU AND YOUR NEW HONEY WANT TO DO IT RIGHT THIS TIME AROUND. IS IT REALLY THAT HARD?

Maybe you’ve read a self-help book. Or watched a video, attended a talk, seen a therapist. There’s no shortage of advice out there. But most of it is so vague that it’s meaningless. And it misses the fundamental point: Intimacy is the product of deep, emotional, mutual understandings that are not simple to achieve.

Look at it this way: You and your partner need to trust and respect each other. And trust and respect are very personal things, based on your own unique and specific idea of how people should behave towards each other. Your sense of right and wrong has been under development for however many decades you’ve been alive. And it’s been honed, shaped, and refined by your previous marriage experience.

But here’s the first crazy thing: You and your lover may not have the same idea of what trust and respect mean!

Now here’s the other crazy thing: It’s fine if you don’t — so long as you understand each other.

And this is how my trademarked strategy Frequent Foreplay Miles can help you.

FREQUENT FOREPLAY MILES: A PROVEN SYSTEM FOR IMPROVING INTIMACY

Frequent Foreplay Miles is a clever (and fun) scoring system for you and your lover that will help you feel loved, cherished, nurtured, supported, understood — all the prerequisites for a great marriage. Yes, it’s a scoring system, okay? Grow up — we all keep score. Everyone knows whether they’re riding high or in the doghouse and where their significant other is. But here’s the really really important difference:

WITH FREQUENT FOREPLAY MILES, YOU KEEP SCORE IN A PRODUCTIVE WAY THAT ENHANCES YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Frequent Foreplay Miles facilitates emotional intimacy. Suddenly every discussion is easy (even fun and sexy) no matter what you’re talking about. With the techniques you’ll learn in Frequent Foreplay Miles, you’ll always be coming closer together.

When you’ve learned the techniques and tricks of Frequent Foreplay Miles, you’ll see every interaction as an opportunity for emotional foreplay. You’ll speak candidly and argue constructively, spin negatives into positives and embrace your differences rather than lash out futilely. You’ll cherish each other and your special connection, relying on your bond to cope with overbearing in-laws, each others kids, ob insecurities and whatever else life throws your way. You’ll be happier and even healthier and find yourself reinvigorated with the joy and passion of your younger years.

You can beat the odds. My husband Dale and I did it. And, guess what? We did it by using my trademarked Frequent Foreplay Miles strategy. You can, too.

"Shela's Frequent Foreplay Miles is a playful way of making sure your relationship is on the right runway. Whether flying solo or with a partner, let this book be your guide to a healthy relationship filled with satisfying intimacy and amazing emotional highs you'll be happy to brag about to your close friends."

— Larry James, Author of How to Really Love the One You're With

"I wanted to say thank you! You absolutely saved my marriage which, after 25 years, was on the brink of divorce. About 2 months after I read your book and followed your advice, my husband noticed the change in me. We were no longer fighting and I had stopped sniping at him. I shared your book with him. He read it in one sitting and couldn't put it down. That's when the real process of fixing our marriage began. We are talking more than we have in 10 years, are in love again, and the fireworks have been re-ignited! Thank you, Shela, for making the emotional love in our life stronger and for making the physical love happen again."

— Marla M.

Meet Shela

Shela Dean is a Relationship Happiness Coach and speaker. She has counseled more than 2,000 couples since 1983 and is the author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy! Shela began studying the dynamics of personal relationships during her two-decade career as an estate and family attorney before retiring from law to begin coaching in 2004.

I'm married to Dale who is hands down, the nicest guy on the planet. He's kind, generous, cute, a great cook, and funny. He's not, of course, perfect. For example, he's chronically late. In fact, that's why Frequent Foreplay Miles began. It was over morning coffee and cinnamon-toast when, 10 years ago, I explained to Dale the effect his being late had on me.