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Shela Dean

Looking for a better relationship with your spouse or life partner? Is your relationship "okay" or even "good," but you want "great?"

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Does the idea of establishing deeper emotional intimacy with your significant other make your toes tingle, and put a smile on your face?

Are you caught in a downward cycle of tallying hurts and annoyances — how many times he's left his clothes on the floor, how she nags him about those clothes on the floor, that someone has told that same darned golf story...AGAIN? Would you like to discover how to deal with those hurts and annoyances in a positive way?

Do you want more from your relationship-more joy, more intimacy, more fulfillment?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you're in the right place. Whether you want to move a shaky relationship to solid ground, rekindle a flickering flame of attraction, or turn a good relationship into a great one, Shela Dean can help.

Shela is a nationally recognized relationship coach, speaker, and bestselling author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy. Using her trademarked strategy for helping couples have what Shela calls Total Intimacy, couples who work with Shela learn that intimacy isn't just about sex — it's about the deep emotional intimacy that is the hallmark of every great relationship.

Creating that emotional intimacy and having a great relationship doesn't have to be hard work. Shela's practical, down-to-earth approach puts fun back in your relationship, making what used to feel like work become play. And who couldn't use a little more playtime, particularly with the person you love?

And that's just the starting point. Couples who work with Shela also learn:

  • To see every opportunity-from a trip to the grocery store to even the most tense situation-as an opportunity for emotional foreplay.
  • The art of constructive candor.
  • How to embrace differences.
  • Turn knee-jerk negative reactions into positive spin.
  • And much, much more.

Shela's fun, simple, yet highly effective process is a great way to increase your connection with your partner and put the spark back in your marriage.

"The light bulb really went off when my wife Betty and I attended one of Shela's Frequent Foreplay Miles workshops. I finally get why we sometimes misunderstand each other. Now we have the tools to clear up those misunderstandings, and we're doing a better job of 'placing ourselves in the other's shoes.' Frequent Foreplay Miles is a great concept. And it's fun!"

Chip G.

Shela Dean's one-on-one relationship coaching helps couples break down the barriers to emotional intimacy, form deeper connections, and re-discover the fun in their relationship.

She also offers workshops and group programs across the country at marriage seminars on topics that show couples how to create a better relationship.

Take a tour around the site, see what Shela has to offer you and your most significant other. Start with learning how the relationship coaching process works. Discover how Shela developed her approach to relationship coaching. Contact Shela to see how she can help you and your most significant other achieve true emotional intimacy.

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" I wanted to say thank you! You absolutely saved my marriage which, after 25 years, was on the brink of divorce. About 2 months after I read your book and followed your advice, my husband noticed the change in me. We were no longer fighting and I had stopped sniping at him. I shared your book with him. He read it in one sitting and couldn't put it down. That's when the real process of fixing our marriage began. We are talking more than we have in 10 years, are in love again, and the fireworks have been re-ignited! Thank you, Shela, for making the emotional love in our life stronger and for making the physical love happen again. "

— Marla M.